So much hoopla over the new year beginning this week! The debate over goals versus intentions versus themes. I don’t know about you, but it has been an exhausting holiday season for me and I did not follow through with some of my usual traditions this year. Perhaps that’s why I feel a little off kilter. Or maybe it’s just that they keep sticking holidays in the middle of the week this year!
Whichever perspective you choose, if you want to the choose the best you for the year, I highly recommend engaging in some sort of ritual or tradition around the new year. This year the new year and the new moon correspond so the frequency is very high around change. My favorite year-end ritual is to journal on a list of questions about the year. If you’d like a copy of the questions, enter your name and email address over in the right column and I’ll send them right over to your inbox.
Don’t worry. I don’t send a bunch of emails. I’m not very regular with the emails at all. I don’t view this a broken so I’m not going to fix it this year
New Year Suggestions
If you are looking for inspiring emails that come with more regularity, I would suggest hopping over to Joyful Artist Studio & Creative Lab and getting on that list. At this moment, I am uploading a new series on upleveling your creativity over there.
On the other hand, maybe you want to start healthy eating this year. It made a huge difference in my life when I got allergy testing and eliminated some foods (wheat, sugar, corn) from my diet. You don’t have to have expensive testing, you can do this yourself if you are committed to feeling better. The email series on the Start Healthy Eating site walk you through how to clean up your food choices.
And if you are looking at ending your marriage this year, I still offer limited representation for Florida divorce cases. Check it out at www.FloridaDIYDivorce.com or www.PamelaWynn.com
It’s been a while since I started seriously searching out my life purpose. Suzanne Falter and Jeffry Van Dyck introduced me to the idea of having a Life Mission and it resonated with me deeply. I know not everyone is motivated to seek out this kind of info. But I am. It’s the way I was built.
I came to this unexpectedly when I traveled to Austin to an event hosted by Suzanne and met many of my online pals there, including Amethyst Wyldfire and Sharon Martinelli, who turns out, lives near me. It was a wildly synchronistic weekend. We did an exercise and I got a ton of info about the people I was supposed to work with but no clue as to what or how I was supposed to do it. It was frustrating.
True Purpose Training
So I thought perhaps I was meant to help others find their purpose so I trained in the True Purpose method with Tim Kelly and Jeffrey. Again, I was able to access a boatload of information but no hows or whats. That was at the end of 2010.
In early 2011 I said “yes” when I meant “no.”
When my gut said “no.”
When my heart said “no.”
Maybe it was fear. Yeah, it was fear. And so I defaulted to old behavior and basically put Continue reading
For my birthday I went to an Intuitive Painting Workshop. I love the community that Nadine has built around her studio, the Artful Dreamer. I love the process of creating and it has been fun attending workshops and circles and other events over the past year.
If you’ve never heard of it, here’s how Nadine describes it
Intuitive Painting is about paying attention to your experience (your process) while you paint from your HEART instead of focusing on the painting (the product).
You get to use paint to:
play with your inner child,tame your inner critic, listen to your intuition, & express without words
We begin with meditation, movement, painting with your heart…
It has been a year of cracking things open so I figured, on my birthday, Intuitive Painting, why not? I could use a break from that inner critic. she can be a real talkaholic sometimes.
Judgment & Criticism
It was liberating to shut my inner critic off and just play for the day. It was also a little scary stepping into the uncertainty and out of judgment. Lately I’ve been examining all the judgment I have, especially what I heap on myself. Looking at these various judgments that I’ve made, I’ve come to realize that a great deal of them came from others. I just adopted them without actually determining if they were something I believed.
Most of us grew up with thee sort of unconscious judgments getting implanted. Try the following money judgments. Maybe you have them too:
Let me just begin with a confession: I like cool – I get grumpy when I’m hot. This summer has been hot hot hot in South Florida and twice my air conditioner has died. It’s under warranty, but it has still made for some super-hot days waiting for the repair.
My house is older and was built before AC was around, and it had features like a whole house fan (removed before I got here), cool quarry tile floors and trees planted around the south and west sides. Luckily I have ceiling fans in most of the rooms. Of course, this is all well and good but it still gets REALLY hot when its 92 outside.
I looked around for some tips to stay cool when the AC is out. Here are my favorite ones:
- Close south and west-facing curtains or blinds during the day for any window that gets direct sunlight.
- Take a (lukewarm) shower but don’t dry off totally, then sit by a fan. You can also use a cold compress on your neck if a shower isn’t feasible.
- Drink up! Hydration moves blood to the surface more efficiently, and allows you Continue reading
With a million different fitness programs out there, you need to have a way to judge which one if right for you, especially when you are over 50. Hmmmm, don’t like judging? Then shall we call it “evaluating” an over 50 fitness program?
Most of all, you have to like the activity. That goes without saying. That’s because if you don’t like it, eventually you will stop doing it. So like is the first factor.
The second factor is that the fitness program has to involve some cardio. I don’t like to sweat but the fact is, the heart needs a workout – of the physical, not the emotional kind. So your program should have part of it devoted to cardio.
Next I think your exercise program should strengthen your core. This is really important if you want to stay mobile. If you don’t believe me, go to a nursing home and see Continue reading
I’ve been thinking alot about how to maintain the motivation to change. It seems like some people can naturally do it, while other people find it difficult to keep motivation for change going – especially when it comes to doing things that are good for you. I know it’s not just me – everyone I’ve talked to about it seems to agree. So why do some people poop out while others seem to keep plowing through?
One thing I noticed when I started exercising was that tracking my activity helped me maintain it. I noted how far I walked each day and totaled the mileage each week. Jerry Seinfeld calls this “Don’t Break the Chain” because, each day his goal is met, he puts an X on the calendar. Then he tries to not break the chain of Xs on his calendar. Just seeing evidence of progress keeps you motivated to maintain your progress.
Cascade Effect: Beyond Motivation to Change
Recently I learned that beyond maintaining motivation, tracking can motivate you to make additional changes. Social scientists call this the cascade effect. I know that some of you will rebel at the suggestion that you keep a diary or notes of your activity, your food intake, Continue reading
“Change is constant and change is inevitable but personal growth –what you do with it, whether you grow with it, whether you become more, whether you decide to grow with what’s happening in your life –that’s a choice.” Bob Proctor
Posted in Miscellany
The big news this week has been a New York judge stopping the jumbo sugar drink ban from going into effect in New York City. Many of you know that I’m a lawyer by training so I’m doubly interested when law and wellness intersect. The upshot of the ruling is that there were too many exceptions to the ban. You may have heard that the judge called the ban “arbitrary and capricious” – that makes it sound really bad, right? But those are just “magic words” that courts use.
NYC Mayor Michael Bloomberg has often been ahead of his time on issues affecting health and wellness. Think the trans-fat ban, requiring restaurants post calorie counts and huge cigarette taxes.
Is Sugar Addictive?
You hear people claim to be addicted to sugar, but is that even possible? According to many studies that have been done, the answer seems to be yes. For example, a Princeton University research team showed that lab rats accustomed to sugar display cravings and Continue reading
At first my exercise over 50 routine was just getting moving with Mom Dancing, as I’ve mentioned. During my Biggest Loser challenge I got more structured and frequent with my exercise over 50 program. Every Saturday we went to the Y for an hour with our trainer and every day I walked at least two miles. I charted the mileage every day to help keep me motivated.
For a couple years I was pretty pleased with myself for walking every day (This does not impress my dog however. She wishes we walked slower and further.) After the trainer Continue reading
Posted in Body, Habits
Tagged Body, Core, Habits
I grew up with a mom dancing mom. She was particularly prone to mom dance around the living room and kitchen to Marty Robbins (A White Sport Coat) and Frank Sinatra (New York, My Way, et al). As a kid I took weekly dance lessons and did the recitals but it
was never considered an exercise plan. So when went off to Continue reading